“Big Girls Don’t Cry” “Man Up, You Little Boy, Dust Off And Wipe Those Tears” “Don’t Be Such A P*ssy” “Men Don’t Cry”
You might have heard, probably been told one of those phrases.
I’m sorry, but when I need to cry I’m gonna cry.
I’m sorry when my son is hurt I’m gonna tell him to cry out as loud as he can.
I’m sorry I’m gonna let my boyfriend cry when he needs to.
“Be A Man And Don’t Cry” such nonsense.
I’m sorry I’m not sorry that I’m gonna let you cry when pain kicks in.
I mostly feel sorry for the Men. They are not entirely allowed to show the pain they feel. They are not allowed to show how hurt they really are. They not allowed to show the ‘weak emotions’. When they show anger, murderous behavior, madness and hate, that’s when society rejoices and sings kumbaya to how manly they are. Like yeah, ‘that is how a man should deal with pain’.
Dear Brother, Boyfriend, Son, Father, Uncle, Friend, cry when you have to. Sob as long as you want. That pain you are holding in will eat you up. It will feed on you. It will take away your happiness. That pain is gonna replace your happiness with sadness. One way or another when you can’t contain all the pain at once, it’s gonna free itself and it is never a good thing when it does that.
When you show hate and madness, it is not being manly anymore. That’s idiocricy. Because you are being controlled by emotions you have kept hidden within you.
Crying is showing emotion, of course. But not weak emotions. When you cry you accept the challenge life has thrown at you, and you use of those tears to snap back at life like, ‘yeah, challenge accepted’. That’s just how I see it.
When they find you seated on your throne happily and ask how you did it, Tell them straight you cried. You let the sadness out to make room for the happiness you deserve.
You’d be surprised to find that most men will still walk away thinking that you are a coward. But that does not matter.
Just be the unique King of your palace who cries when needed, rather than show anger, for you have chosen not to follow what society believes in.
Unique is sexy after all.